Starting kindergarten or daycare for a child can be a stressful experience and can be perceived as a form of separation from parents, which can generate separation anxiety. However, it does not necessarily mean that it will lead to abandonment trauma.

Here are some factors that may influence how a child perceives this experience:

1. Age and developmental stage: Younger children, especially those under 3 years of age, may have more difficulty adjusting to separation because they have not yet fully developed the understanding and ability to manage the emotions of separation anxiety. Around 8-12 months of age, many children begin to develop separation anxiety as they realize that their parents may leave and that they have no control over their return.

2. Child Personality: Some children are naturally more resilient and adapt more easily to new situations, while others are more sensitive to change and need more time to adjust.

3. Preparing for the transition: Preparing your child for the transition, through discussions, visits to the nursery or crèche before the start and familiarization with the staff and the place, can help reduce anxiety.

4. Support from educators and staff: How educators manage the transition and encourage adjustment can make a big difference. A warm, safe and welcoming environment helps the child feel secure.

5. Relationship with parents: Children who have a secure relationship with their parents and feel that they are loved and supported are more likely to get through the transition without developing trauma.

How to prevent the perception as abandonment trauma?

- Emotional counseling: Parents can talk to the child about kindergarten/daycare, what he/she will do there, and read books together on the subject.

- Consistent routines:** A clear and consistent routine can help the child feel secure in knowing what to expect.

- Adjustment time: Allow your child time to adjust gradually, possibly with short periods of visitation at first, gradually lengthening.

- Establish a parting ritual: A short, consistent ritual (e.g. a kiss and a hug) can help the child understand that the parting is temporary.

In conclusion, although starting kindergarten or daycare can be challenging for the child, it does not necessarily mean that it will cause abandonment trauma. With proper support and a gentle transition, most children will adapt and learn to enjoy their new experiences.