This week we tackle the theme: Life as a couple!

A common question in couples therapy is the following:

"Is it better for the child to pretend to be a couple or to divorce?"

Each person is unique, and so is the couple!

The decision to stay in a dysfunctional couple relationship "for the good of the child" or to divorce is a complex one and depends on several factors, including the nature of the relationship and its impact on the child.

### Arguments to stay together:

1. Emotional and Financial Stability: The child can benefit from a stable environment, both emotionally and financially, when both parents live together.

2. Presence of both parents: Sometimes children feel that they have a better relationship with their parents when both are present in their daily lives.

3. Avoiding major changes: Divorce can bring major changes in the child's life, such as moving to another house, changing schools, losing contact with friends or other relatives.

### Arguments for divorce:

1. Healthy and harmonious environment: If the relationship is toxic, violent or marked by constant conflicts, it can have a negative impact on the child. Children are sensitive to tension and conflict, and may develop emotional or behavioral problems.

2. Example of a healthy relationship: Children learn from their parents' relationships. If the parents stay together in an unhappy or abusive relationship, the child can learn unhealthy behavior patterns.

3. Parental Happiness: Parental happiness and well-being are important for child well-being. If the parents are happier and more fulfilled after the divorce, the child can benefit from a more positive environment.

### Other considerations:

- The type and nature of the conflict:

If the relationship is marked by abuse, violence, or toxic behavior, divorce is usually more beneficial for all parties involved.

- The mature approach to divorce:

If parents choose to divorce, it is important to manage the divorce in a way that minimizes the impact on the child while maintaining a respectful and cooperative relationship.

- Psychological support:

Regardless of the decision made, psychological support for the child can be of great help in coping with the situation.

In the end, every family is unique and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. It is important that parents consider all these aspects and, if possible, consult a specialist (psychologist, marriage counselor) to make the best decision for the child and for themselves.